Step 2: Generate several possible solutions from the categories of A.T.I.P.
Of course, each of the categories in A.T.I.P. may not be applicable in all situations (e.g., when a child runs toward the street, “Ignoring” is not a viable option; when you are trying to build a positive behavior, “Teaching” is the obvious first choice, but if your child becomes defiant, Avoiding, Ignoring, or Punishing may become necessary). Still, it is important to be open-minded and creative as you brain-storm and list possible solutions. While more details can be found in the preceding chapter, here are some things to remember about each category:
Avoid:
Be careful, because avoiding behavioral problems may be a common-sense, good idea (e.g., you put your child in for a nap to avoid tantrums), or a bad idea that is an “easy out” (e.g., you avoid your child’s tantrums by quickly giving in to his demands).
Teach:
Notice that “A.T.I.P. from the Manners-Manager” provides the most room for your ideas in the “Teach” category. The “Teach” category is broad, and includes a wide range of options, including but certainly not limited to hand-over-hand prompting, modeling/demonstrating, redirecting, verbally instructing, offering incentives/rewards (e.g., verbal praise, behavior management reward charts, token-economy programs, etc.), building compliance with “Yes-When” deals, etc..
Ignore:
Ignoring negative behavior can be quite challenging, but remember it is more effective than erupting with anger (like a “dictator”) or “giving in” (like a “doormat”).
Punish:
For punishment to be effective, it must be humane, immediate, powerful, and consistent.
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Teach: ______________________________________________
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