Crucial Foundations
The “Dirty-Dozen”: 12 Reasons Why YOU WILL FAIL with your Behavior Management Strategies
Here are the “Dirty-Dozen”: Twelve reasons why your behavior management...
Discipline Using Physical Contact (that is NOT Corporal Punishment)
Corporal punishment refers to the use of physical pain to punish and...
The Best “Time-Out” Happens with “Time-In”
In our “A.T.I.P.” model of discipline (i.e., Avoiding, Teaching,...
“Forget my child…I wouldn’t mind a little ‘Time-Out’ for myself!”
“Time-out” is as much for you as it is for your child. Take your child’s...
“How do I build my child’s self-control through Time-Out?”
“Time-Out” is clearly a technique of “Punishment,” as it is intended to...
“How long should ‘Time-Out’ last?” (Use the Clock and the Calendar)
The best known and most generally accepted guideline for the duration of...
“At what age can I begin to use ‘Time-Out’?”
Remember that “Time-Out” by definition is a “Punishment” as it is...
Should I give ‘warnings’ to my child before implementing ‘Time-out’?
No. If you give your child a warning (or two, or three!) before placing...
“I Can’t Use Time-Out Because my child (1) doesn’t care, (2) screams and fights, AND/OR (3) laughs in my face!”
When in “Time-Out” most children either (1) scream/cry/physically...
“I tried ‘Time-Out’ and it doesn’t work!”
As indicated above, the term “Time-Out” is an abbreviation and originates...
“Should I Use ‘Time-Out’? What do the experts say?”
The National Association for the Education of Young Children (NAEYC)...
“What is the PURPOSE of ‘Time-Out’?”
While “Time-Out” is a simple enough concept, its purpose is subject to...
“What is ‘Time-Out’?”
The term “Time-Out” is an abbreviation that originates from the longer...
“Divide and Conquer”
Alright, maybe the “battle cry” of “divide and conquer” is not especially...
“Morning Express” Yourself: Do you just rise, or do you rise and shine?
If your mornings are too stressful, here are some tips for you’re a.m....
Paving the Road to Self-Regulation (for children with hyper-sensitivity/anxiety)
Self-regulation of hyper-sensitivity/anxiety occurs along a continuum. ...
Paving the Road to Empathy
Of course, demonstrations of empathy depend not only on individual...
PAIRenting: Where do you land (or fall) on ‘agreement’ with your partner in child-rearing?
It is often said that “You don’t know somebody until you live with...
Behavior, Understanding & Language: How are the three related?
Parents and professional often assume that a child’s behavior will...
Finding Your Cool: “But I lose my cool…I can’t help it!”
No matter how difficult it is, try to remember the following points about...
Amazing Grace
John Newton is generally credited with writing “Amazing Grace” based on...
Teacher or Torture?
It’s the day after Halloween. Do you hide the bowl of candy (to avoid...
Keep the boat (and behavior) on course: “The Navigator’s Mind-Set”
Medical doctors often strive to cure diseases (e.g., an antibiotic...
How do I know when to Avoid, Teach, Ignore, or Punish? What is the “Manners Manager”?
You may ask, “So, I know A.T.I.P., but what should I do?” Just use the...
When All Else Fails – “I have tried everything and nothing @#%^$ works!”
Which category you choose (Avoiding, Teaching, Ignoring, or Punishing) to...
“What’s the difference between Punishment and Discipline?”
“Punishment” only refers to decreasing negative behavior, while...
A.T.I.P. You Should Never Forget
“I don’t know what to do about (this or that or the other)...
Wait Training
Consider your use of “Yes-When” deals to be a version of “Wait Training”...
Yes-When, If-Then, or No-Until?
When you use “Yes-When” deals it is important that you remain positive in...
“But my child will just ignore me and do whatever he wants on his own.”
Never forget that you control the privileges, and therefore you control...
“But my child does not care when I withhold privileges”
I have just advocated patience, reasonable criteria in your “Yes-When...
“But my child doesn’t comply when I offer “Yes-When deals” Instead of obeying, he throws tantrums or hits!”
Everyone wins with “Yes-When deals”, regardless of your child’s...
“But my child doesn’t understand ‘Yes-When Deals’!”
Of course, your child may not fully understand the “Yes-When deal” that...
“What is the process of a ‘Yes-When Deal’?”
“Processes” are used with most jobs. Consider two examples: flying to...
“What is a “Yes-When” Deal? And why are “Yes-When’ Deals ‘The Way of the World’?”
Every child should have a RIGHT to certain things. These RIGHTS (or...
“What is the difference between Rights and Privileges (and why is that SO important)?”
There are rights and privileges in the world. In each country,...
Quiz: Are you a Democrat, Dictator, or Doormat?
To determine your parenting style, take this little quiz by circling what...
“Should I Be a Democrat, a Dictator, and/or a Doormat?”
Parenting decisions can be complex, yet a simple framework is helpful for...