“But my child doesn’t understand ‘Yes-When Deals’!”
Of course, your child may not fully
understand the “Yes-When deal” that you offer. No problem! There are plenty
of ways to make “Yes-When” deals developmentally appropriate for even very
young children or children who do not yet understand your words. Just use “Show-and-Tell
For example, “Yes you can have the cookie,
when you sit on the chair”:
Hand-Over-Hand prompting: leave the cookie on the table and then carry your
child over to the chair.
Demonstration: sit on the chair and eat a cookie to demonstrate compliance with
Use Gestures: point to the cookie, bring the
cookie to chair, then point to the chair
Use Verbal Instructions: for example, say, “Yes
you can have the cookie, when you sit on the chair.”
Congratulations you have just taught your
child that a cookie is not a RIGHT, but rather a PRIVILEGE that must be earned.